Such A Beautiful Day

Today is one of those days when I’m not worrying about weight loss supplements to help me lose weight. I’ve got plenty of sunshine and 2 legs that like walking around in it. I bundled Elliana up in one of her cute little jackets, and we took off outside for a walk. We were going to take her to the track at the elementary school not far from here, but we decided just getting outside and walking around our own yard would also do the trick. Plus we don’t have to drive anywhere to do that.

We walked down to the pasture to see the cows, and she made her little bird lips and ooh sounds when one walked up to the fence. Then we went next door and walked up and down my grandparents’ driveway a few times. I think last summer we figured it up and found out 18 trips down the driveway equal roughly a mile. Elliana giggled and grinned every time we passed one of the cows that had wandered up to that side of the pasture. I’d say she had a pretty good time.

Now she’s sitting in her swing playing with the frog my aunt gave her for Valentine’s Day, and I’m off to get myself dressed. My mother-in-law offered to babysit tonight so we can have a little bit of alone time. We took Elliana with us to our Valentine’s Day and Hubby’s Birthday festivities, so it will be nice to have a little Mommy/Daddy alone time.

Anniversary Gifts

Yep it’s still raining here for the most part.  We’re getting a slight break right now, but I doubt the porch will have enough time to dry before another shower rolls through.  All this rain has kept my mood quite blah over the last few days, but I’ve got to kick my butt in gear and get some planning done.

Sunday is our 6th anniversary, so I’ve got to come up with something for us to do.  I know we’ll go out for a nice dinner, but this year I have absolutely no clue where I want to go eat.  I totally don’t have a present for Hubby yet either.  He totally wants some video surveillance equipment for the back patio just so he can see his precious motorcycle. He’s using the excuse that it’ll be a great way to keep an eye on the baby, too, but I guess he doesn’t consider the fact that I’m not exactly going to be letting her run around outside by herself…especially not anytime within the next few years.

I may give in and get him a small little setup anyway as long as he agrees to put a camera facing the driveway as well. My lazy side thinks it’d be super awesome if I didn’t have to get up and look out the window every time someone pulls in the driveway. I could totally pretend I’m not home when an unwanted guest arrives! Most people call before they stop by anyway, but there’s always that one person that drops by unannounced.

Other than that I really have no idea what I could get him because he hasn’t really mentioned anything he wants.  I mentioned that I want DJ Hero Renegade Edition, but I won’t be getting that until October.  Then again we might as well save the $200 because once the baby gets here I’ll never have a chance to play it!

Ask Me First

I love how Hubby tends to make dinner plans without consulting me first.  I laid out chicken to cook for dinner, got it halfway thawed out, then he called and said we’re going to dinner with my Dad.  They ran into each other and decided they both want to go eat at their favorite restaurant tonight, Paw’s Diner.  We just ate there Friday night when we took my Dad out for his birthday dinner.  I love their food, too, but it’s true traditional fat and greasy southern food. If we keep eating there so much I’m going to have to buy some Anoretix to counteract the fat.

I’m happy I don’t have to cook tonight, but I just wish he’d ask me if I was planning to cook dinner instead of telling me we’re going out to eat.  I guess I can put the chicken in the fridge and cook it for dinner tomorrow…if he doesn’t make plans without consulting me again.

Relationships Are Hard Work

Oh what to do…

It seems like lately Hubby and I have become the poster relationship for all of our newly married friends. We get bombarded with questions about how we’ve kept our relationship so strong at such a young age.

To me, I don’t feel like we were extremely young when we got married because around here most girls are either knocked up and married or running off to get married to escape this place right out of high school. I was 1 1/2 months shy of 22 when I got married, and I do see how a lot of people in this day and age thing that’s young.

Anywho, now most of our close friends are in the 24-30 range and either newlyweds or are about to get married…and every single one of them think they should come to us for advice. Your husband got mad because you bought the wrong kind of soap? What would Jenn do? Your wife caught you looking at a porno mag? What would Ben do?

Hubby and I have never really had to deal with hardships in our relationship. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I guess I could say we’re lucky. We’re completely 100% honest with each other, communicate about everything, neither of us have any sort of insecurity/jealousy issues, and we just live our lives. If we have a rocky patch, we do what we have to do to get past it. We might have a knock down drag out fight, and the next day forget it ever happened, but we’ve never gone through anything either of us consider to be an extremely tough time in our marriage. Heck, we’ve been married 5 years, and even though a lot of our friends say that’s like a lifetime with the divorce rates of today, we both feel like we’re still practically newlyweds.

So back to the questions. Most of it is silly little stuff, but now we’ve got a friend who has been asking me what seriously could be relationship ending questions for the past few days now. I understand he and his wife haven’t even hit that 6 month mark yet, and I understand he’s really got a lot to learn about women and marriages. I also know this falls into a gray area for me.

He keeps asking me to give him a woman’s perspective on their issue. I could totally give him a woman’s perspective, but it definitely wouldn’t be his wife’s perspective. I completely disagree with her 100%, but I can’t tell him that. I can’t tell him I think she’s acting childish, immature, like a total bitch. They’ve got to learn to deal with these things themselves. Yes, they’re going to fight over stupid shit. Yes, they’re going to completely disagree and piss each other off. Yes, she might be acting stupid in my opinion, but she fully believes she’s in the right. She’s a completely different person than me, and I can’t judge her just because we don’t see things from the same perspective.

No, I can’t tell him what to do.

I’ve been friends with this guy for years, and I really don’t know his wife. They live on the other side of the country, and I’ve never physically met her. I’ve talked to her online a handful of times, but I don’t know anything about her. Any advice I gave him would be totally biased, and I just can’t do that.

I gave him the best answer I thought I could give…I can listen to you, give you an out to release your frustrations, but I can’t give you advice on this. If you want advice, I think you need to discuss that with a professional. Sit her down, talk to her about it, and if you two can’t resolve your problems by communicating with each other like adults, maybe you should find someone, a professional, to talk to.

I think that was the best answer I could have given him. What would you have done?