Why does my Grandmother insist on always having an ulterior motive or hidden agenda? I admit I don’t get along very well with my Grandmother on my Dad’s side of the family for that very reason.
She called me today asking me to go to lunch tomorrow with her and her sisters. I declined, and in turn she had quite a few choice things to say to me. Let her say what she wants. I’d rather spend 10 minutes listening to her berate me than being stuck with her and her 2 sisters for lunch where all hell would break loose.
I already know what she wants. She uses the excuse that she wants to see me and see how my belly has grown. In reality I know she already hit up my sister last week, and they had a big blow up in the middle of a very nice restaurant. She tries to lure us in with food and the promise that we’re going to use the time to reconnect. All is well for the first half of the meal when while we watch her and her sisters turn their nose up at everyone else like they are some sort of special elite class of southern belles (which they are certainly not).
They’ll spend a bit discussing everything from the best wrinkle creams to all the local town gossip then she goes in for the kill. She will motion for our aunts to give her a few moments alone with us, and then she strikes…trying to convince us to do everything from breaking up my dad and his girlfriend to leaving my husband just because he’s “not good enough for her”. When we tell her she’s full of it she then tells us it’s all our mother’s fault we have no respect for her and her wishes, and she bad mouths my mother in every form possible.
Well this is one lunch I’ll be missing. I vowed after our big blowout last Christmas not to give the woman anymore of my time, and I’m just not going to do it. As much as I wish I could have a loving relationship with her, I can’t, and I apologize to my wonderful Grandpa who is probably rolling over in his grave right now.
