Put Down The Controller

Ben Shuey and I got into a huge fight tonight.  It was really stupid, but it escalated to a blow out over a stupid video game.  We both love playing Tourist Trophy for PS2.  If you’ve ever played Gran Turismo think Gran Turismo 4, but with bikes. We decided to get it after seeing so many good reviews from https://www.mysteryblock.com/the-best-gaming-mice-under-100/. It’s a great game, but hubby is a really sore loser.

When it comes to video games he’s actually worse than most kids I know.  He’ll scream, throw things, punch things, and curse up a storm when he’s not winning.  His dad is the same way, so I always tell him “honey, it’s just a game.  Walk away for a minute, calm down, then go back to it.  If you keep getting frustrated you’ll never win.”

The problem is he never listens…just like a man.  If he was my kid I could just take the game away, but it’s kind of hard to do that to your husband.  He finally got so pissed off that he wasn’t winning, he punched an big screen tv we have.  It doesn’t work, but I still don’t want him punching it.  The only reason we have it is because it’s got the perfect shell to turn it into a storage unit, which he’s been promising to do for 3 years.  That’s another story for another day.

The point is how do you tell a man you seriously have to stop playing this game now without making the situation worse?  His temper only comes out when he’s playing video games, and it’s to a point where I’ve seriously thought about taking them all to Gamestop one day while he’s at work, but yeah I know how well that would go.

2 Comments on Put Down The Controller

  1. Cromely
    February 13 at 2:45 am (11 years ago)

    I get frustrated when playing games, too. But the frustration is part of the whole experience.

    Playing video games isn’t just about having fun for a few minutes. It’s about challenging yourself to be better and to accomplish something. Sure, there are no real world impacts to that accomplishment, but that’s not the point.

    There are very few opportunities for people to feel they are really in control in their lives. Games — video or otherwise — are one of those places. The rules are simple. The accomplishments defined.

    And those successes and failures get tied into ego. I may not have been the cool kid in school, but dammit — here is where being a geek can pay off.

    I guess my point is that while he does need to be careful about his temper, be aware that you may be venturing into the realm of male ego and self worth.

  2. JennShuey
    February 13 at 2:37 pm (11 years ago)

    Thank you for your input. I agree that getting frustrated is part of the game, but I do believe there’s a point when you just need to walk away.

    I get extremely frustrated from time to time, and I may throw the controller or curse up a storm, but I’m not going around punching things, and physically damaging our house hold. He’s been known to punch holes in walls, kick doors, etc.

    Controlling the temper is the only thing I’m worried about. I don’t mind him playing the games, getting frustrated, and such. He just really needs to realize he can’t let his temper fly off the handle like that!

    If we had children, I definitely wouldn’t want them to see their father acting in that manor.