The good news is Ben got a great new job, and he started last week. The really great news is it’s first shift and a lot more money than the crappy factory job he was stuck in. The bad news…
He’s back in construction. The really bad news…
He’s stuck at home when the rain is pouring, and that means he has been driving me nuts!
The pay is well worth going back into construction, and it even makes up for dealing with getting rained out. Heck being back on first shift makes it worth it. I hate to admit it, but second shift took a major toll on our marriage. When I started this blog I made a promise to myself never to rant about my marriage and any issues we may have or things we may go through, but I feel I can freely say this without breaking that promise to myself.
I’m not proud of what happened to my marriage over the last half of 2013. The job took a toll on us both, and it ripped us at seams we never knew we had. Finally we both blew a lid in December and got our heads straight. We’ve spent the last few months working through our issues, focusing on us, and making sure were centering our marriage around God first. I can honestly say at this point our marriage is stronger than it was 6 months ago, and in a way I’m thankful Ben was placed in that job for a short time because it opened our eyes to problems we may not have faced right now, issues we may have faced 10 years from now instead.
Anywho, I’m glad we’re past all that. As we struggled to rebuild our marriage we both agreed second shift was a huge problem. Ben moved to third shift in an attempt to help things a bit. In most households third shift would probably be the “bad” shift, but for us it really helped our marriage. The only issue we had left with the job was the really crappy pay. Our budget was really suffering, and I’m thankful Ben was finally offered a position somewhere else. The months and months of searching, applying, and not getting the job were all worth it for this one opportunity. I truly feel God placed him on the path that is right for our family at the right time, and we both learned a lot of patience.
Now I just have to remind myself of that patience as he drives me crazy on rainy days lol! Yesterday he moped around all morning then surfed around the net on my laptop for awhile. Letting him do that was a bad idea! He spent the afternoon going on and on about an exciting washburn from guitar center he really wants and rambling forever and a day about rebuilding the tranny in the Duramax. Ok, I’m game for listening to car talk, but he has been rambling about this for weeks while gathering the parts. I was in a pretty crabby mood, so his endless rambling didn’t help my mood. I’m thankful to say the least he returned to work today even if he did have to miss some time this morning waiting for the drizzle to die off.
And what did I learn? Keep a set of earplugs handy on his days home from work! Better yet, have an extra honey do list ready and waiting to keep him busy! I’m sure he would really love that one!
After talking to one of my friends today about what her kids are doing in school my brain hurts. Plus I’m seriously doubling my efforts to convince Ben that I should home school Ellie. He says I need to send her to public school because it will give me the personal time I really need. Does he forget I’ll still have Aubrey at home when Ellie starts kindergarten? She’ll be a little over 2, so personal time will not be in my future! He definitely doesn’t forget. His other argument is that I won’t have the time to devote to homeschooling Ellie with Aubrey at home, but I disagree. I have plenty of mamas in my little support circle who not only home school multiple kiddos, but they do it with a toddler on their heels. I think I can manage.
Anywho today’s discussion was about my friend’s elementary aged kiddos and common core which is now being taught in the schools here as well as her teen and band class. The band discussion was simple. She knows I’m good at finding online deals, so she asked me to find the most affordable rico reeds she can get for her daughter’s clarinet. Done. I did some research and sent her a few links. As for the common core, she blew my mind with some of the math problems on her son’s worksheet this week. Seriously, why does math have to be so difficult? I admit math was not my best subject. Although I did manage to make it through AP Calculus I had a hard time with math. I was a history, English, and science kind of gal. Even so I can take one look at common core math and see how absolutely ridiculous it is. Why are children being taught to work twice as hard to get to the same answer?
The math isn’t the only issue I have with common core, but I won’t get into those right now. Home school is definitely seeming to be the much better choice for us, so I really need to get on the ball convincing Ben then deciding which curriculum I like best. Heck, I may even do as my friend Jennifer does with her three girls and design my own from various online Christian resources. I have an extra year before Ellie starts school thanks to her birthday falling a month after the cut off, so I have some time to figure it all out. The way I see it we can definitely give it a shot, and if we don’t like the way home schooling is going we have the option to enroll her in public school or even try to budget in private school from then on. Personally I feel Ellie would do better in a one on one environment. She is a high strung child with many traits of ADD, and she had a hard time concentrating on things when she’s in an environment with multiple children. This could be the answer to help us all.
You know what word is funny to say? Flugelhorn! I came across the flugelhorn at wwbw when I was doing some research on some prices for clarinet stuff for a friend, and I don’t know why I decided the word Flugelhorn is so funny. I saw the word on my screen and burst out laughing. Maybe it’s the lack of sleep from being up half the night with the kiddos, or all the whining I’ve listened to today. Either way I still find it funny!
Even though my motherboard bit the dust I managed to have a pretty successful day today working from my phone. As much as it makes my fingers cramp typing on this little keyboard I managed to get caught up on everything I’ve fallen behind on over the past week of dealing with sickness in the house.
After lunch my bff came by so I could help her build a quick website. Thankfully she brought her laptop so I didn’t have to do that from my phone. I would have gladly thrown a site together for her, but she wanted to learn to do it herself. I decided to show her how to use IM creator because it’s pretty simple and straight forward. An hour later she walked out with a website ready to launch and I moved on to the other thing I’ve been avoiding…laundry.
Aubrey and I have spent all evening catching up on the mountain in the laundry room, and we’re still not done. That’s partly because I pulled a ton of baby clothes out of the attic and even though I washed them all to put away I can’t bring myself to put my kid in them without washing them again. A large portion of the attic clothes are things that are too small, and I hope to have a yard sale this weekend with them and a few other things. I guess that tells me what I’ll be doing the rest of the week. Yep, it’ll be yard sale prep time.